How to Connect With Your Inner Truth

Our feelings and emotions are excellent guides when remembering how to connect with your inner truth.

Many of us have lived in a culture, a family, a relationship or environment where pieces of us are frowned upon, not welcomed into the conversation or even forbidden. As we learn to suppress certain elements of ourselves in order to fit in or feel safe, other aspects of our true, natural self-expression tend to also become suppressed. For example as we keep a lid on, hold back, or contain our anger, we inadvertently constrict our ability to experience and express our joy.

Often we do this without even realising the price we've paid to 'fit in', to 'belong', to 'feel normal'.

Perhaps now, what once enabled us to feel safe, to receive love, or to survive is no longer a useful pattern in our lives.

Through exploration of our emotions we can connect with our inner truth and begin to feel at home in our own skin, where we inherently belong.

This story from past me dives into the fear of self-expression and may illuminate a few things for you, or it may not. Only one way to find out ;)

From the Archives circa 2016

'A message sung itself to me just before the super moon this month.

Be Brave. Be Wild. Be True.

These three ideas seem to flow naturally, with the refreshing power of a glacier fed river. The perfect message for me in that very moment as I continued my pondering of what these posts would be about. I felt then that this message is also for you.

We all have moments of hesitation, fear of what will happen if we speak out with a true voice. Or behave in a way that doesn't quite fit the expected. How will people react? What will they think?

Better yet let's consider, how will I feel?! And, how will I feel/continue to feel if I don't speak up, or do, or be the thing that I desire? I believe this a kind of being brave. This is about asking those questions of yourself, making those discernments and honouring what you feel in your heart, or your gut, or your very bones.

Tune in to you so that you may uncover, connect and align with your inner truth.

So with my fear in hand I've been living in the glorious family bubble that having a new(ish ;P) child creates, and learning to love and seriously own my emotions. Feeling them in my body, gaining some incredible insight into how to navigate those deep, deep waters and using that insight to guide how I live my life. The paradigm I use to view the world has shifted.

This allows me (I have allowed myself!) to make decisions like remaining at home with my mini man because the prospect of returning to work and leaving him each day was a full body NO for me. Or to acknowledge my feelings of desire for connection and reaching out to find some of the most inspiring women I've ever met. Or hearing that message above and knowing I was meant to share it, then actually doing it!

All of these things hold elements of fear for me, but I believe that kind of fear is powerful and transformative and to be embraced.

Be Wild? More on this another time, but I can feel the Be True simply pouring out onto the page and couldn't help it if I tried. Can you feel it? ;)

Invitation to explore: Is there an area in your life where you are holding fear? Can you envision yourself embracing your fear? What might that look like for you? What might happen if you did?

Be Brave. Be Wild. Be True.

All the Love and Wild Moon Fire,

Lex xxx'

There are many ways to shift from holding in or holding back to holding hands with the weight and the levity, the fullness, of our deepest inner truths. You may find support in circle, a trauma-informed yoga class, a meditation practice with emotional exploration as the anchor or in sessions with a counsellor or psychotherapist.

To connect with your inner truth you may choose to begin by to listening to the story behind the intensity of your emotions. What lies deeper than the story you are telling yourself? Deeper than that... and that? Uncover what the emotion is trying to communicate to you.

This can be confronting. Be gentle and compassionate with yourself. Titrate challenging emotions with ones that feel safe and know you can always ask for support.

Invitation to explore from present day me: What feels true for you? What one step can you take right now toward aligning your action, your expression, with your inner truth?

With love,